Resilience in life – Settling in, Emotional Intelligence & Moving on

Resilience in Life

“Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.” – W.B. Yeats

Settling In

This is an important stage in a child’s life and we believe strongly that the happiness of your child is paramount as they make the transition from home to nursery.

We make sure the children have visited The Willow prior to the start of term, ensuring that they have

familiarised themselves with the setting, the teachers and some of the children.

Together with the parents we complete a Profile for each child which ensures that from the start we know as much about them as possible and how best to make sure their transition to school is a happy one.


Emotional Wellbeing

We use the brilliant RULER approach at The Willow Nursery. It helps to develop the emotional intelligence and well-being of the children.

The RULER approach has been developed by The Yale Centre for Emotional Intelligence and is built on decades of research.  Lulu Luckock, one of our long-standing members of staff, has trained at Yale to roll out  RULER in schools. In the afternoons Lulu works as an educational consultant in other schools where she trains school communties, large and small, to embed RULER into their everyday routines.

RULER is an acronym and stands for:

  • Recognising emotions in yourself and others
  • Understanding the causes and consequences of emotions
  • Labeling emotions accurately – if you can name it you can tame it
  • Expressing emotions appropriately
  • Regulating emotions effectively
The first anchor tool for the early years is called the ‘Mood Meter’. This helps the children think of emotions in terms of energy and pleasantness. Parents and teachers alike are delighted by how easy the children find it to use colours to express their feelings and the feelings of others around them.

The second anchor tool is ‘The Charter’ – the children describe the way they would like to feel when they’re at The Willow and what they can do to help themselves and their friends feel this way.

Every two weeks a new “feeling word” is introduced, we talk about how that word feels, how to recognise it in ourselves and others and if it is a red or blue feeling how to regulate our emotions to get to the best place.

Parents will also have the opportunity to attend workshops to help them ‘talk to their children in colour!’


Moving On

We are proud to have good relationships with all our feeder schools and having asked them what they are looking for in children joining reception we now ensure that all Willow children:

  • Are able to listen, communicate, share and follow instructions
  • Are confident to have a try at anything and not be scared to make mistakes
  • Are independent in using the toilet, putting on their coats and shoes
  • Are happy to separate easily from their parents and go and play games with the teacher
  • Have some knowledge of initial sounds
  • Have good co-ordination and fine motor skills
  • Have good social interaction
  • Are able to listen to instructions and have a go
  • Have excellent spoken English
  • Are able to answer questions and talk confidently
  • Are able to sit and listen attentively
  • Are good at sharing resources with other children
  • Are responsible for own belongings and to dress independently
  • Know their colours
  • Recognise and ideally write their name
  • Have the correct pencil grip
  • Have good manners – pleases and thank yous
  • Have good listening skills
  • Are able to count to 10 and recognise quantity

Some of the schools our children move on to:

Broomwood Hall; St. Peter’s Eaton Square C of E Primary School; Heathrook Primary School; Parkgate School; Ecole de Wix Primary School;Thomas’s Battersea; Macaulay C of E Primary School; Thomas’s Clapham; Belleville Primary School; Newton Prep; Honeywell Primary School; Dolphin School; Beatrix Potter Primary School;  Eaton House The Manor; The Oratory Primary School; Hornsby House School